October 25, 2016
Hey guys! It’s been so long since I’ve done a post 😳 I’ve been so busy lately balancing work, family time and planning Rylie’s first birthday party (which btw, I plan to share here after the event so stay tuned 😛). I’m counting down the days until she turns one and I seriously can not believe how fast it’s coming up! I’m sure I’ll be writing a sappy post dedicated solely to my growing babe as the day approaches, but for today I wanted to shed light on something that I hope will make people think twice about.
The mama community on social media is pretty huge. While everyone is completely different, they all have one thing in common and that is motherhood. I have met some great mamas through Instagram who have really helped me grow as a mother by sharing their personal experiences, tips and advice. By sharing my own experiences, I’ve gotten great feedback and encouragement as well. Tonight I came across a beautiful picture one of the mamas I recently started following posted. After liking her picture, I read her caption. It sounded a bit snobby and I was completely caught off guard that such a beautiful picture came with a caption like that. So as part of her caption suggested, I went ahead and watched her “instastory”. What I saw was, a mother insulting another mother for copying a professional photo session she had taken. I was left feeling so bothered that I immediately unliked her picture and unfollowed her account. Originally I followed her because I enjoyed her amazing feed and honest motherhood, but failed to remember behind these perfectly curated instagram feeds are imperfect human beings. Now I’m not trying to shame this lady, but when you post your life publicly to the world, you are inviting everyone and anyone to admire your ideas which will sometimes lead to you becoming their form of inspiration. That’s definitely a huge compliment, but I also get how this MAY be discouraging in some ways. Maybe you spent hours and hours deciding on specific colors and scenery that you found perfect for that special moment, and here comes someone else who didn’t have to input as much time and effort since you had done the work and they’re receiving all the credit for what you felt was your ideas. But if this is the mindset you have, if you will get angry and turn to cyber harassment over someone simply “copying” your picture, maybe your best bet is to switch your account to private and not share with the world your amazing ideas. Almost every idea that someone has thought of or seen is most likely on Pinterest. I literally turn to Pinterest for every occasion to get some inspiration and can spend hours browsing through categories. Like their description says, Pinterest is the world’s catalog of ideas.
Sorry for the long rant here. I just needed to voice my opinion on something I feel can be very serious and damaging to a person no matter their age, gender, job title, etc. Harassment and bullying is such a scary reality that I pray my child won’t ever have to encounter. However, I will raise her to be strong enough to identify it and move past it if she ever had to. We as parents need to be positive role models to our children or how else can we expect anything great? Life is already hard as it is, so we need to encourage one another and lift each other up❤️ Be kind always.
Has it already been a week since I was sitting on my bed with my laptop in front of me, trying to find the words to express my feelings on returning to work? If you haven’t seen my instagram post a few days ago, I survived my first week back and Rylie handled it like a champ 🙂 I have to add this again because I really mean it when I say I APPRECIATE each and every person who reached out to me with advice and encouragement during that transition. It is amazing to know how much mothers will come together no matter what it is. I’m so happy to have some “mommy friends” through social media since not many of my friends have babies or the ones that do have, live in a different state. Mothers UNITE! ❤
Speaking of mamas in different states…one of my closest friends, Kelsie, and her adorable baby girl, Khloe, booked a quick trip to Hawaii this weekend! We were so fortunate to have been able to spend the day with them and finally have our babies meet. Kelsie and I have been friends for 10 years now, and we have literally been through everything together. From that awkward, trying-to-find-ourselves point in life, to going through pregnancy, and now entering motherhood together, we have definitely come a long way. We always jokingly talked about having babies at the same time or at least close in age and I can’t believe that it actually happened. Although we now live in different states, we are determined to make sure that our girls will grow up knowing each other (and go on lots of Disneyland trips together) 🙂
You guys, my baby is 10 months old! She has finally hit those double digits, meaning she is now 2 months shy of her first birthday (which btw, I really need to get on it with her party planning) but omg! I seriously can’t get over how fast time flies when you have a baby. It was just yesterday that Rylie was doing her superman pose on the floor, trying to move by wiggling her arms and legs around with mommy and daddy cheering her on. She’s now clapping for herself and walking alongside tables and couches, taking everything out of their place along the way. I’m pretty certain she’ll be walking on her own in no time and as exciting as that may be, I wanna cry and live in these moments a little bit longer. Trust me when I say that time will stop for no one. This is a great reminder to always give my 100% love and attention to Rylie because they really grow up fast so every second counts 🙂
Now for a little personal update: When I became pregnant, I imagined myself having no choice but to jump right back into work after 2 months of maternity leave. Never did I think I would become a stay-at-home-mom being that the cost of living in Hawaii is so high and I relied heavily on my income to support my “way of life”, but we found a way and made it happen. It has now been 11 months that I’ve been out from work (including the month I was on bed rest), and while it has been hard, exhausting and frustrating at times, it has been the most amazing and rewarding 11 months of my life. With the new flexibility we never had while the both of us were working full-time, we were able to get in as much family outings as we could and spend a lot of time with loved ones. I feel very fortunate that I got to witness and document so many milestones that Rylie hit, as well as see her start to become her own little person. I probably don’t say it enough but I’m so appreciative of Chris for all that he does to support us. Not only has he given me the greatest gift of all (Rylie), he has given me an 11 month long opportunity I didn’t think I’d ever get to experience.
Well, in less than 12 hours I will finally be returning to work part-time and leaving my baby for longer than 2 hours, for the first time. I’ve been struggling with how to prepare myself for this big day and have been trying to remain positive in what I feel is going to be one of the toughest moments in motherhood, yet. But like my good friend has reminded me, my sole purpose for working will be my baby. Everything I do will be done for her. I want to be sure that we can provide her the best life and if this means having to work a few days a week, then so be it. This reminder means everything to me. While I know I’ll wake up tomorrow feeling all sorts of sadness being that it’s the actual day, I will keep telling myself what she said to help me stay positive. (Thanks, K ❤ )
I would love to know what you working moms did to help you get through your first days back from maternity!